david rosca helped me the diff build fine and here are the before and after images.
as you can see the arrangement of the buttons is the same than in the plasma desktop, and some other kcm's. the idea is to have the same style everywhere.
so if the plasma developers say we want to have an consistent look and feel for all kcm's a ship-it would be nice.
This is one of those base things we need sorting out as "buttons moving around between KCM's" is a no brainer UI wise to fix. When one button which does the same thing is flung across the screen this cause all other fixes to the layout to be more or less meaningless.